Feeling the “S” in BLAST

Anyone else feeling the “S” in BLAST lately?

I don’t know about you guys, but I’m definitely feeling the S in BLAST right now.

For any newbies, BLAST stands for:

Bored
Lonely
Angry
Stressed
Tired

Between what’s going on in the world, work, and family things, I can feel the stress creeping in. I’m not as patient as I should be, I’m scrolling more, and my sleep sucks.

I’ve had to make an effort to turn off the news and listen to an audiobook instead (shout out to Stephen King!). I have to be aware when I start doomscrolling, put my phone down, and then go outside. Even today, when it’s raining. I didn’t melt, but my dogs were still stubborn. For Dobermans, they sure are wimpy.

Fresh air and some deep breaths always have a way of clearing my thoughts. And of course, I turn on some reality TV. I know it’s trash TV, but I love it just the same. And a new season of House of Villains just started. It doesn’t get campier than that.

But I know not everyone is into standing in the rain while trying to force their dogs to go potty. Or even into reality television. So, let’s talk about some unique stress busters you can give a try:

Repetitive handwork

Knitting, crochet, embroidery, hand sewing, even slow repetitive beadwork, basically anything with rhythmic hand motion and enough focus to interrupt the stress spiral.

This is great for anyone who feels overwhelmed and needs to do something with their hands besides doomscrolling or acting out in an unhealthy way.

Mandala coloring (structured coloring)

This is different than the coloring I’ve previously mentioned. Mandalas (circular patterns) give your brain just enough structure to focus without overthinking. Bonus points for doing this because studies have shown that short sessions of mandala coloring can reduce anxiety and stress.

All because your brain focuses on repeating shapes instead of whatever spiral it was about to wrap you up in. Anyone old enough to remember the Spirograph from the 80s?

Playful “fake laughter”

This one sounds ridiculous, but it’s another one backed by research.

Deliberately laughing (even if it starts fake) can stimulate circulation, relax muscles, and reduce stress. Some programs even use “laughter yoga,” in which people intentionally laugh as an exercise, which has been linked to reduced stress and burnout. You don’t even have to mean it. Fake laughter can be a response to your SOS signal.

Watch fish (seriously)

You guys know, I have fish. Actually, I have two aquariums. This is what happens when someone gives you a Betta fish for Mother’s Day. Two years later, you have a twenty-gallon tank, a forty-gallon tank, more plants than you can count, and a hobby you absolutely love.

I digress.

Studies have shown that watching fish tanks can lower your heart rate and blood pressure and improve relaxation. Have you ever wondered why so many dentists have fish? Research has shown that having them in dental waiting rooms has made people feel calmer before their appointments.

I’m not suggesting you run out and buy an aquarium (if you do, please don’t buy a tiny tank for a betta…they need room to swim), nor am I suggesting you hang out in a dentist’s lobby because that would be, well, weird. But you can watch videos of fish swimming around being their fascinating selves. I recommend searching for Corydoras. They’re like the silly puppies of the aquariums.

Do one ridiculously small task

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, doing one tiny action can break the freeze response. I love this because it also helps with triggers and urges.

Here are just a few examples:

• Wipe one counter

• Fold three shirts

• Answer one email

• Water one plant

Your brain gets a quick completion signal, which helps reduce the stress loop. And if you watched the show Friends, you can cross “Check!” off your list. So satisfying!

What about you? Are you feeling the “S” in BLAST lately? What helps you destress?

Let’s Stay Connected

If this resonates with you, I’d really love to know. You can comment below or email me. You’re also invited to join other Bookenders on Reddit.

And if you’re looking for deeper exercises, I wrote Bookends of Recovery & Healing Workbook to help you heal from betrayal trauma and addiction by using creative exercises, action tools, and guided reflection.

Warmly,
Laura 🌻